I am all for finding ways to make things easier. But, let's face it. When it comes to a good spanking, surely there is nothing like putting in the extra effort, right?
I know that one of the biggest turn-ons for me, one of the things that just makes me melt is having my man in charge. Knowing that I am over his lap/across that bed/etc. until he decides that I have had enough.
I trust him completely. For me every spank, every hot sting of his flesh (or of course some toy/tool) against mine just seems to show me his love, care, dominance, and turns me into a writhing cauldron of lust wanting so desperately for it to end yet hoping like hell it doesn't.
I don't want to know that I will be spanked according to a chart. I want to know that I will be spanked until he is satisfied.
Of course, this isn't the only aspect of the experience that I love, but, I do think it is a good part of it. (It is a cute sexy picture though.)
Do you feel the same? Or does that really matter for you?
For you that do the spanking, how do you feel about setting an amount/length/etc? Do you start with something like that in mind? Or do you just see how it goes as it goes along?