She Works Hard For The Money?

We visited a couple over the weekend in Texas that we had met in a club. Nothing happened, not that it wont in the future, but it was just an accept of an invite to spend the weekend.

It was on the second day that they asked us if we wanted to watch their massive collection of videos.

We had agreed, and Mike and I had watched a bunch of different themed ones including a section of
spanking videos and clips.

I was actually a bit shocked at what I saw.

See, My boyfriend and I have been into spanking for over 8 years now. During that time I have got to watch myself be spanked many times through the use of mirror placement in the bedroom.

I have seen myself spanked with probably everything we have and I have watched how Mike spanks. As I
have said before, we dont do punishment, meaning real punishment, it has been part of the occasional role play. But, that doesn't mean that often the spanking will get quite intense.

My point is that I know the mechanics for lack of better word, that make up a spanking.

What I was seeing in the vast majority of these videos, and I should mention they came from many sources, not just one, was very very much distorted.

I dont want to say "fake" as there really was contact being made, but reactions and motions were far
exaggerated for what was "really" happening.

Let me see if I can explain.

It seemed like the 3 most exaggerations I noted was this.

A cane being held so far up the shaft, that there was very little of the "whippy" action that I have watched a cane do as Mike used it. There was very little to bend and so it seemed like it was a very thin-like paddle impact rather than that of a cane. I am sure you  know what I am talking about even if I am not explaining/describing it very well.

Another thing that I saw done, and it seemed like it was mostly hand spanking that this involved, even though sometimes it was a paddle, was the hand "skimming across" the butt during the spank.. almost like brushing something off. What I am comparing this to when I get spanked is Mike brings his hand or anything else, "down" , not across.

One last more common exaggeration that I noticed was this. What might at first appear to be a very hard spank, was that the hand/arm was swung very hard, but rather than any type of "follow" through, at the last second, just as the hand or brush or paddle, etc landed, it was jerked back up very fast.

Now, I should point out that after we got home, in fact just a few hours ago, Mike and I tried these things. I watched too just so I could make sure we were recreating the action of the videos.

He used the cane halfway up for a few strokes, then a few strokes done "normally", he did the "dust off" spanks while I was over his lap, and then normal spanking.

And he did the jerk-away spanking and the follow through spanking.

I should say that I felt the other types of spanks some, it even stung some a bit, but it was not near like what is felt when spanking is not exaggerated.

Usual post spanking fun occurred and I was quite happy, but it made me wonder, what do others think about this?

What it reminded me of was professional television wresting. They really are hitting each other, but if they didn't do it "right" someone can get seriously hurt. The spanking videos had ridiculous reactions to exaggerated spanking and hardly ever any real marking that would occur if the spanks had been normal, but in both wrestling and the places selling these videos, people are still paying quite a bit of money for both.

For those of you that watch videos and like them, does the spanking need to be real for you to enjoy it or is the show more important than realism? Am I being over critical? Have you noticed what I did about the exaggerated mechanics of the spankings?

As The Flames Climbed High Into The Night

It was the Friday after my boyfriend Mike's birthday. I had told him that any type of birthday plans were being postponed from his actual birthdate so as to not have to worry about either of having work the next day.

He had not been feeling good about this birthday. I suspect that is what had been bothering him to not be in a mood for any kind of play for several weeks.

Without going into his personal details, I can just say that I understood, but was hoping that my plans for his birthday would help rid him of any doubts or feelings that was affecting him.

I had cooked his favorite meal of lasagna, I had made fresh homemade french bread for garlic bread, and that afternoon I had prepared a salad and vac-packed it to stay fresh. All that was left to do was to heat things up and I had plans for that.

I had hired a fantasy/erotic hostess service for the evening. I had already met the two girls that would come over and we had discussed the evening and what I would like and they had made suggestions of their own.

They got to the house about an hour before Mike was due to come home and they brought their outfits to change into, got a feel for the layout, helped me prepare the table setting in the dining room.

When he came home, they were in the spare bedroom with their things so even though he saw the car, he did not know who was here.

I told him to take a shower and get dressed in the suit and tie I had laid out for him.

While he did so, I changed into a sleek dress

 and had the lasagna and garlic bread heated and warm.

When he came out we sat at the table and that is when he got a good look at our pretty hostesses in their sexy maid outfits.

I could tell he really appreciated them and the food and they made sure they kept his wine glass full.

While we were finishing the lasagna, they changed into some sheer lingerie to serve dessert.

A chocolate cherry cake. We sang happy birthday and they paid him lots of attention sitting to either side of him and feeding him the cake.

After a little more wine, as I had asked, one of the girls said something about when do we get to the birthday spankings.

This was the moment of truth, it had been weeks and here a couple of strangers, sexy strangers, but nonetheless strangers were asking about spankings.

He looked at me and I said, guess now as a good a time as any and said we should go to the living room.

I had Mike sit and saying I didnt want to make a mess of my dress, took it off, leaving me in a black and red lace cami, panties, garter belt and stockings, and heels

and I bent over his lap.

His spanks were more playful than anything and while I really liked this, I also really missed a spanking. I had expected this though and after a couple minutes

, the girls gave him my last surprise. A new leather paddle and told him he should try this.

A couple swats and not much harder later, I asked if he started yet. This got a laugh out of the girls and got him to start using it for real.

I LOVED it. And then one of the girls asked if the spanks shouldnt be counted. Getting into the spirit, he told them sure, count.

And they did but they seemed to lose count an awful lot which of course meant starting over!

I did not care one bit mind you, but it was funny and they were giggling about it, but I was just enjoying it so much... finally that familiar hot stingy feeling was being felt again, and I was so damn aroused. I would have been fine with it going into the hundreds.

I felt like I was so close to an orgasm, I was squirming all over, soaking his slacks with my arousal, squealing with the sting but eventually it ended.

I was on fire with lust as well as a very hot and no doubt very red bottom that he was rubbing while I was moaning.

I did not know exactly what would happen next, I did feel like whether they were there or not, I just wanted to attack my boyfriend and got fucked senseless.

I think the girls realized that though and said they should be leaving and thanked us and said to call them back any time.

The sex after they left was nothing short of nuclear, only enhanced by the fact that it had been so long since we had done anything like this.

And so after that birthday, I have my boyfriend back, confident, strong, and ready to spank. And boy has he. Aside from these last times when it was to relieve a tooth pain, it has been a plentiful amount of time over his lap and into bed (when we make it that far), and I am quite happy.

Have any of you had to find a way out of a dry spell? A partner for what ever reason temporarily losing interest whether in doing the spanking or getting them? Would you want to have a couple strangers watch?

Baby We Were Born To Run

Any time I hear the phrases "born that way" or "in the genes" or anything similar to that, my knee-jerk reaction is to dismiss what is being said.

See to me, that relieves people of responsibility of their actions. After all, why should they be held accountable for what they do.. they can't help it..
they were just born that way!

That being said, however, after that first reaction passes there are some things that I just cannot deny.

There was a response left anonymously recently, that I unforgivably overlooked/missed and it got me to thinking. It was

"Amber: You say you are being sexist about only guys spanking women. I would concur that you are. However, my dear, I have something for you to consider. We as a species are engineered to reproduce. Human reproduction happens only one way. The man is generally the aggressor and the woman submits. In other words men tend to be dominant toward women and women tend to submit to a mans in-bred dominance. My point to you is, yes you are being sexist and it is completely normal. Without that sexism the human species would not reproduce. It is in our nature."


As it used terms suggesting "born that way", as I have said, Idid not like at first what it was saying, but I also couldn't help but take into account that the vast majority of women are in fact sexually submissive, psychospanktually submissive as well.

Now don't get me wrong, no one is saying "all woman", after all there is a very thriving successful niche of porn devoted to femdom/female domination. And we all know that the pro dommes are VERY busy.

I am sexually submissive to a point. I very much like it that way. There are times I can be quite the aggressor, initiating the action with a wont take no perseverance, but when all is said and done, I am the one that gets tied up, the one that gets spanked.

I will go a bit further than just the bedroom though, and I will say that most women do not do well in positions of open authority. That is not to say we are without power and influence. We just seem to be most successful as the power behind the power. Again, I definitely am not implying ALL women. I think we can all name very powerful successful women.

What we can do and do very well, is get what we want in the end though. So next time you guys think you realllly are in charge, just remember, that's because we are letting you think you are.

What are your all feelings on this, girls? guys?

Oh and I know I still have so much to talk about, I promise I will get to.

In A Bit Of A Fog

I have been lost in a daze these last few days what with strong pain killer and antibiotics. I'm afraid I have no concentration and any kind of post will have to wait.

I know I owe you wonderful people several, and I will get to them, I promise, but even this is kind of like feeling like I am swimming underwater..

I will be fine in a couple days I am sure.  Do have a wonderful weekend.

xxx amber