Bondage

Bondage, spanking and flagellation are close relatives, though we don't necessarily like all of our relatives, and some of us avoid them at every opportunity.


I'm not into flagellation as its primary object is to cause serious pain, unlike spanking where although the pain is integral, it's more about establishing the right of one party to impose their erotic will on the other, and in the process making the little brat on the receiving end contrite and anxious to please. As spanking generally involves panties being taken down or off completely, once the lesson has been learned, for the young lady to move on to showing her appreciation for being shown the error of her ways is hardly difficult.

Bondage has far more in common with spanking than flagellation does. With spanking, the female is held against her will while being punished, even if the punishment turns out to be ultimately pleasurable and in fact something she really wants to happen. From the first threat of redress to the conclusion she is not quite sure how painful or humiliating it will be, and indeed if it will be too much for her to cope with. As such there is excitement, stimulation and of course danger. In a perfect world it will hurt just that bit more than she thinks she can tolerate, so the next time it happens, the fear and apprehension will still be there giving it an edge. Without that essential ingredient the magic is lost.

With bondage she is totally helpless, completely at his mercy and having no idea what he might chose to do. He could produce a rod of punishment or of course a rod of pleasure. She could be tawsed or teased, or pleasured in ways she did not know existed. He could simply take himself in hand and bathe her in his excitement, or produce her best friend and penetrate and please her in front of her. Better still he could produce his own best friend who could help him to take her to places never reached before. Nothing is of limits, but as with when he's giving her a spanking, whatever he does must have an edge to it so that should she find her self tied by him again, it has her aroused even before anything as happened.

Of course, although the problem of getting him tied in the first place is not easy, once that has been achieved, bondage is an area where the female of the species can get her own back on the male. The stronger and more masculine he is , the more exciting it is to get him whimpering for release.(On this subject do read my post, 'Delayed gratifaction' where I deal with the subject of slow masturbation.) Of course you'll have the possibility of his revenge to cope with afterwards, but that just adds to the excitement.

The next time you phone for someone in an office to be told, "I'm afaid she's tied up," make a point of taking a few minutes off to imagine just what this could mean. She could be strapped naked across her desk with her panties stuffed in her mouth!